Dear Brittany

Dear Brittany,

Brittany, as you move forward with your plan to end your life early, I wish to speak to you as one who was left behind. 

On this day eighteen years ago (October 29, 1996), surrounded by…

Perfectionism & Chipped Nail Polish


How do you know if you're a perfectionist? Here are some statements and behaviors that might be a red flag:
  • Go big or go home. 
  • If you want it done right you have to do it yourself.
  • I like to…

On Loving An Older Man

I held his face for a few seconds and looked into his calico eyes. He smiled. It was hard not to get lost in the rugged, hard-earned smile lines borne of 50+ years of experience. Age and experience are attractive.
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The Drool Test

What you are about to learn is an unscientific yet strangely accurate test of love. I call it the drool test. You see, I rarely get sick or have to lay down to take a nap. As a woman…

All By My Selfie

I am amazed at how many selfies there are online. The main picture on my homepage is a selfie.  My first, to be exact. 

Though selfies have been happening since the early years of photography, the recent advent of sharing…
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Life On Auto-Tune?

Auto-tune is the plastic surgery of the music world. It makes things pretty, but is it real? Have you been to a live concert of a big act only to find the live performance sounds very little like the album…
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Peace Like A River

Two rivers of tears rush down my cheeks as I write. Tomorrow is his birthday. He would have been forty-three.

I was a young woman in my early twenties, kneeling on the floor of a bathroom stall pouring the agony…
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World Peace and Ear Plugs

In terms of world peace, John Lennon had it right when he suggested that all we need is love.  Before world peace is possible we have to achieve peace in our individual worlds. I looked at my own world for…
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Of Love, Rice Pudding, and Men

Who knew that rice pudding would make his eyes light up like that?  Texas, my husband, friend, companion and lover, has never expressed his love of rice pudding these seven years until just recently when I purchased some from the…
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Breakfast In Bed

The midnight oil burns fast when there is work to be done!  Three a.m. comes quickly and without permission.  So does 7 a.m...but no complaints here.  I woke up to a bouncy, happy nine-year-old son with a grin from ear-to-ear…